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I make mistakes all the time. I’m human and making mistakes is pretty much written into our DNA. It’s how we learn and how we grow and how we become better versions of ourselves.
However, I can be downright evil to myself when I make a mistake! What about you?
I mean sure, forgetting to take the meat out to defrost typically gets a simple shrug from me.
Forgetting the link in a blog post though? Getting called out by a reader for being off on my math in a deal post? Those are head banging, embarrassing moments for me.
Mostly I can deal with a mistake that only inconveniences me. However, if that mistake might have inconvenienced someone else? I don’t give myself much slack in those situations.
The truth is though, if it were anyone else, I wouldn’t be so harsh. In fact in most cases, I would go above and beyond to give them grace and thank them for their efforts.
Honest mistakes are just that, honest! They are mistakes made without malice or any ill intent.
Maybe you went over budget again this week and spent too much at the grocery store.
Maybe you lost track of your debits in your checking account and ended up with an overdraft fee.
Maybe you miscalculated what you would need for your vacation and ended up having to tap into your emergency fund.
Just because these mistakes could have been prevented by more careful math or better organization doesn’t make them mistakes of a malicious nature. So why are we so evil to ourselves when we make them!
What good does it do to berate yourself when you could just give yourself grace and learn from your mistake.
Take a deep breath, calm yourself and immediately think about why the mistake was made and what can you do to prevent it from happening again.
Likewise, if you “catch” someone else in a mistake, don’t be so quick to place the blame and feel superior! I see this over and over again, especially on the internet. Remember that we are all human beings and we are all entitled to make mistakes. This doesn’t mean you let a possibly damaging mistake go unnoticed, simply that you give others the same grace you should be giving yourself. Take a deep breath and be constructive and kind.
This week, be gentler with yourself when you make a mistake. Be gentler with others. Remember, we are all human.