This morning my son was annoyed by the very presence of my daughter. Everything she did got under his skin. He just kept telling her to stop, get away from me, you are too close, why are you doing that, you are so annoying, etc. Finally I got fed up (this was all during breakfast) and moved him to the dining room table.
He seemed pleased to be moved, so I told him, “This is not to make you happy. It is because you are being a bully and I don’t think Lizzie should have to deal with it“.
He looked at me and said “Bully?” and his face FELL and he started uncontrollably sobbing.
I don’t think he ever thought about the fact that he could be a bully. He knows what a bully is, but it’s hard to see yourself that way, you know?
He went over and hugged and kissed his sister and apologized to her. I told him I was proud of him for realizing he was not being kind and for apologizing. It was QUITE the moment. I was teary eyed.
Seeing the moment it dawned on him is a moment I’m not sure I’ll ever forget.
A friend, posted recently about an 11 year old committing suicide because of bullying.
I won’t let my children be bullies.
Not to their friends and certainly not to their sibling.
I hope that all of you won’t let your children be bullies either.
However, if you don’t point out the behavior…they won’t know and that is on you as the parent…not on the child (until they grow up and know better).
Has your child been bullied? Has your child been a bully? Did you react in anger or did you use the experience as a teaching moment? Comment below.